Adriana Iliescu
Just because you want something really badly doesn't necessarily mean it's okay for you to have it.
Take 66-year-old Adriana Illiescu, for example. The Romanian woman gave birth to a premature girl in Bucharest after undergoing fertility treatments for nine years. And this week, Illiescu beat out Satyabhama Mahapatra, of India, who gave birth to a boy at the age of 65 in 2003 after being impregnated by an egg donated by her 26-year-old niece.
I understand the desire to have children --- really, I do. But it makes me incredibly sad to think of all the children born into this world who are unwanted or who've lost their parents and who need loving people to take them into their homes and care for them.
Actually, it really pisses me off to think about it --- about kids in overcrowded orphanages in some of the poorest regions in the world, who've done nothing to deserve all the suffering that they have to go through; no kid should have to grow up like that, yet, it happens.
And I just can't understand why people who are so desperate to have children would rather go through fertility treatments --- with the knowledge that it's not always successful --- than adopt.
Okay --- I get it. Not everyone has a big enough heart to love someone who's not their own. As the old saying goes: blood is thicker than water. But I can't help but think...it's the people who can love without restraint who really deserve to be parents. After all, if you desperately want children, you should adopt. And if you can't love a child who's not your own flesh and blood, then maybe you don't want children as badly as you think you do.
Personally? I think that people like Iliescu and Mahapatra are selfish and irresponsible for bringing children into this world; it's no better than a child of 14 deciding she's ready for sex and then getting pregnant as a result.
I stumbled across a huge discussion on this on the BBC's site and there was a message by a woman, whose parents were 42 and 49 when they had her. She said she grew up with the constant fear of losing them before she was ready to make it on her own in this world.
I wonder if Iliescu or Mahapatra bothered to consider that before they went ahead to fulfill their own selfish desires.
Take 66-year-old Adriana Illiescu, for example. The Romanian woman gave birth to a premature girl in Bucharest after undergoing fertility treatments for nine years. And this week, Illiescu beat out Satyabhama Mahapatra, of India, who gave birth to a boy at the age of 65 in 2003 after being impregnated by an egg donated by her 26-year-old niece.
I understand the desire to have children --- really, I do. But it makes me incredibly sad to think of all the children born into this world who are unwanted or who've lost their parents and who need loving people to take them into their homes and care for them.
Actually, it really pisses me off to think about it --- about kids in overcrowded orphanages in some of the poorest regions in the world, who've done nothing to deserve all the suffering that they have to go through; no kid should have to grow up like that, yet, it happens.
And I just can't understand why people who are so desperate to have children would rather go through fertility treatments --- with the knowledge that it's not always successful --- than adopt.
Okay --- I get it. Not everyone has a big enough heart to love someone who's not their own. As the old saying goes: blood is thicker than water. But I can't help but think...it's the people who can love without restraint who really deserve to be parents. After all, if you desperately want children, you should adopt. And if you can't love a child who's not your own flesh and blood, then maybe you don't want children as badly as you think you do.
Personally? I think that people like Iliescu and Mahapatra are selfish and irresponsible for bringing children into this world; it's no better than a child of 14 deciding she's ready for sex and then getting pregnant as a result.
I stumbled across a huge discussion on this on the BBC's site and there was a message by a woman, whose parents were 42 and 49 when they had her. She said she grew up with the constant fear of losing them before she was ready to make it on her own in this world.
I wonder if Iliescu or Mahapatra bothered to consider that before they went ahead to fulfill their own selfish desires.
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